Written for the woman deciding.
On decisions, autonomy, and the difference between knowing something and being willing to act on it.
- Decisions
Why you keep making the same decision
Most women arrive at a decision already knowing the answer, and stay exactly where they are for another year. That is not indecision. It is a negotiation.
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How to make a decision you have been avoiding
Every decision that is avoided is still being made, by default, by whoever else is willing to act. The sequence that makes one possible to hold.
Read this - Money and Autonomy
The soft life, and what it actually costs
Rest is a state. Dependence is a position. A woman can be exhausted and independent, or comfortable and entirely without standing.
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How to know when it is time to leave
Most women are not waiting for information. They are waiting for a feeling of certainty that the situation is not built to produce.
Read this - Patterns
The cost of being the capable one
Capability starts as a quality and becomes a position. Nobody negotiated it, and the woman holding it is usually the last to notice it happened.
Read this - Transitions
When you have outgrown your life
There is a specific difficulty in wanting to change a life that nothing is wrong with. There is nothing to point at, and no vocabulary that does not sound ungrateful.
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